My nipples and clitoris are very sensitive. Could it be my husband’s technique?

My nipples and clitoris are very sensitive. Could it be my husband’s technique?

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I am 33 and newly married. I have come not to enjoy nipple or clitoral stimulation by my husband. My parts are very sensitive and I find such stimulation overwhelming. I was abused as a child, but have not had this problem before. There is a chance that it’s my new husband’s technique, but I have also had major surgery and a termination of pregnancy, which could be contributory factors.

It is essential that you share all of this with your husband. Surgery certainly can contribute to physical sensitivity, while a history of abuse can affect one’s long-term sexuality in a number of ways and requires professional help.

But your husband also needs to join with you in seeking answers and in improving sensation. Help him to understand your exact feelings, and ask very specifically for what you need.

Many women are afraid to say anything critical about a partner’s technique, or to disclose their sexual fragility.

But, if gently presented in a non-blaming fashion, it can lead to better sex, as well as greater closeness and bonding.

You both deserve to be known to each other for who you really are sexually – at every point in your lives together; this is a cornerstone of intimacy.

When sharing truths about your sexual needs, always begin by reaffirming your love and by letting him know the positive things you enjoy about lovemaking with him.

Then help him to fully understand your specific physical sensitivities, and try to be brave enough to share your masturbation technique with him.

Gently micromanage his efforts until he gets it right, then reward him in the best possible way – including implementing his requests for improved technique on your part.

 

 

source: The Guardian Independent

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